Dressing for Funerals and All Saints’ Day

In the past, it was common tradition to buy a new coat, outfit, and shoes specifically for a funeral. This hasn’t changed much today. It’s often said that cemeteries on November 1st, All Saints’ Day, can resemble fashion shows. There is nothing wrong with wearing a new coat, shoes, hat, or handbag on this day—only an inappropriate choice of clothing or accessories may come across as showing off.

A funeral is a formal occasion, and the same applies to All Saints’ Day. Choosing a polished and respectful outfit is a way to show reverence. It is recommended to dress discreetly, respecting the customs and rules dictated by religion or culture. Just as business attire has evolved over time, the dress code for funerals has also become more relaxed. The role, age, position of attendees, and type of funeral can all influence clothing choices.

Appropriate attire for close family members

Immediate family members of the deceased should dress discreetly, following classic etiquette. Black is most common, though dark navy or charcoal grey are also appropriate. Men typically wear a white shirt with a black tie, or a black shirt without a tie. While a tie is not mandatory, it is often worn by those accustomed to wearing one. Women should also opt for black attire.

Other guests can choose dark navy or grey clothing, and in summer, lighter neutral tones. Children should be dressed in neutral colours without slogans or patterns. Teenagers and children who are not close relatives should wear the darkest clothing they own, ideally in neutral colours such as grey, beige, dark green, or navy. Sportswear, tracksuits, jeans, and sneakers are not recommended for children.

Inappropriate attire for funerals or cemetery visits

Avoid sleeveless clothing, even if it has become more common and acceptable in summer—it remains inappropriate for church services. Steer clear of mini skirts, sheer fabrics, overly tight clothing, low necklines, ripped jeans, leggings, slogan T-shirts, shorts, cargo pants with large pockets, tracksuits, sportswear, trainers, baseball caps, and beachwear.

Coats and outerwear

In winter, the choice is straightforward: a dark wool coat, dark trousers or skirt, and dark shoes. Light trench coats, brightly coloured casual jackets, sports coats, or anything with reflective elements are not suitable.

Shoes

Since cemetery grounds are often sandy or grassy, stilettos are impractical. Choose shoes with a wider heel. Open-toe shoes, sandals, trainers, and beach footwear are also unsuitable. In bad weather, opt for elegant but practical shoes. Shoes should be clean and in good condition.

Jewellery and accessories

Jewellery should be elegant and understated—small earrings and a simple necklace are acceptable. Avoid large rings or stacking multiple bracelets. A handbag should be dark, small, and in harmony with the outfit. Shiny, brightly coloured handbags are inappropriate. Sunglasses can block eye contact, so wear them only if you have a medical reason.